Menu problems

Hi, I've just installed the pro theme and have some questions. The website is: kookstudiogezelly.nl 1. I would like to show the alternative menu (the one centered just above the slider), and I would like NOT to show the head menu (the one right on top of the page, next to logo). If i keep the box of the main menu empty, it is still shown on the website. 2. i used the button 'reset menu color' and now the colors of my menu are not adjustable anymore. If i change a color, and push publish, nothing changes. And sometimes when i publish a color change i'm automatically pushed to the page: reset menu color, and still nothing changed. 3. Above of the footer menu there is a blue border, i want to change that color, but cannot find where many thanks for your help Maaike